Dear Abby: She gets angry when we say she’s not a good baby-sitter

DEAR ABBY: My sister “Rebecca” is in her early 40s and has been blind for greater than 20 years.

She has low vanity and will get depressed when she will be able to’t do issues. Proper now she desires to babysit a 1-year-old boy in our household by herself.

Rebecca’s husband is legally blind, closets himself in his residence workplace all day and ignores every part round him.

Though my sister is assured she may care for the child, the boy’s mother and father and I should not snug with the thought. Rebecca typically runs into issues in her personal home, can’t discover one thing she has dropped — and generally even has issue understanding what's going on round her.

Once we point out these issues or the truth that the child is quick and rambunctious, she will get indignant and teary-eyed and gained’t hearken to cause.

How can we assist her to know we are able to’t depart the child alone along with her?

OUT OF THE QUESTION

DEAR OUT: You have got already tried to get by means of to somebody who refuses to just accept actuality.

There isn't a cause why Rebecca can’t help in babysitting the kid, however she mustn't try and do it alone.

It’s essential that you simply and the kid’s mother and father follow your weapons. Do what's greatest for the infant. And if meaning making different preparations for a babysitter, so be it.

DEAR ABBY: My husband died lately. I've been approached by a a lot youthful man for a sexual relationship.

I need to, however I really feel he's too younger. I’m 61, and he’s 37, the identical age as my son.

We have now been mates for years, and I'm uncertain if I ought to change the connection. I see no future in it besides occasional intercourse.

Ought to I drop it or contemplate the probabilities?

THINKING ABOUT IT IN OHIO

DEAR THINKING: Earlier than dropping it, fastidiously contemplate the “prospects.” At 37, this individual just isn't a child, he’s an grownup.

One thing like this occurred to certainly one of my family members years in the past. An in depth pal of her son introduced he had fallen in love along with her. It took her a short time to regulate her pondering, however the consequence was a really pleased marriage.

DEAR ABBY: I lately acquired a textual content from my nephew asking that I cosign on a mortgage for a automobile. Abby, I'm estranged from this individual. I've met him solely a handful of instances, and I haven’t seen him in years.

I used to be, as you may think about, delay by his request.

I responded that I couldn’t cosign as a result of it might make me legally liable for the debt. My entitled nephew’s response was useless silence, not an “I perceive,” not an “OK, sorry.” Nothing! I by no means heard from him once more.

Am I incorrect for feeling offended that he requested?

TOO SMART FOR THAT

DEAR TOO SMART: Cease losing your time preoccupying your self with ideas of this relative. He seemingly requested you to cosign as a result of nobody else within the household would. His perspective was, “Nothing ventured, nothing gained.”

You probably did the proper factor to refuse for use. There isn't a must dwell on it additional.

Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.